Dear Andi,
I’ve been trying my hardest to do well in all of my classes this semester, but I’m getting overwhelmed. I’m doing fine in all but one of my classes, which I think I’m going to have to drop, because I just don’t have enough time to keep up with all the work I have to do for it. I’m embarrassed to admit to my friends that I can’t keep up with my workload, when they all seem to be doing so well. How should I tell my friends about all of this, or do I have to?
Sincerely,
Superficial Student
Dear Superficial Student,
First of all, you do not have to tell anyone anything. Your life and academic standing is your business and no one else’s so don’t feel that you have to share that information if you don’t want to. Secondly, I understand the pressure to keep up with your friends, but everyone is different when it comes to education. There seems to be a negative connotation and sense of failure when talking about dropping a class, but if dropping that class is going to help you get a better education with your other classes, why is it such a big deal? I mean, aren’t you really at school to get a good education, not just follow the crowd? Do what you feel is best for you and your future, and don’t worry about what anyone else says or thinks. If they’re really your friends, they’ll support you and your decision because they’ll understand it’s what’s best for you!
Best of Luck!
Andi
Dear Andi,
I have been talking to this guy for almost two months now. We talk everyday and have good conversations. But he brings up his ex-girlfriend a decent amount, even though recently it has decreased. I don’t know if I should seek out anything with him if he is still hung up on her. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Too Soon?
Dear Too Soon,
My first instinct in this kind of situation is to go with your gut feeling. If this guy seems to still be hung up on his ex-girlfriend, then he probably is. If he talked/talks about her a lot, she is obviously still on his mind, but that doesn’t mean you can’t change that. If you have a feeling that things are shifting in your favor, you find that he is acting differently towards you than he did before, and is talking about her less, then I would consider asking him how he feels about you two. Have you tried dropping him little hints, or flirting with him to see how he reacts? Bottom line, if you’re seriously wondering, you could always just be honest and ask him what’s going on. Vulnerability isn’t easy, but it is the quickest way to get an honest answer.
Hope this helps!
Andi
